The reason of this act of banning or limiting the amount of single men attending swingers’ events, especially on-premise events, is because of the wrongdoings of a small group of guys. In many cases I have seen so far, the main reason for these complaints are because single men — the small group I was talking about in particular — come to events for one reason and one reason only: sex. They thought about singers’ event as an easy place to get themselves laid. These single men are ruining the scene for other single men who are genuinely attracted to the swingers’ community.

There are swinging couples frequently used single man (or men) as their playmates; everyone’s happy and parties involved respect each other perfectly. Even the Saints and Sinners ball allows single men as long as they have an attending couple (or more) vouching for their good behavior and attitude. It is really a matter on how single men project themselves to the community, and how this community interprets their actions.

If you are a single man wanting to join the swinger community, you must fully understand that attending swinger events is just like attending any other parties; you need to behave well or your party host will kick you out of their venue. Take your time, build your reputation as a nice guy, and you will be attending more swinger parties faster than you think.

The first interesting private party I found was the Sunshine Club. They have a site that will help swingers get in touch with each other using their internal messaging service. They also have private parties held in beautiful penthouses around the Sunshine Coast, Queensland, every month. The great thing I love about the Sunshine Club is the fact that I can see and get to know people attending the event beforehand so that both my spouse and I can decide if we are comfortable with the crowd before attending. We are still in an early stage of engaging the swinging lifestyle, and this helps us a lot.

Another great private party that I found was held in Sydney; it is called Lifestyle Connexions. I love how they keep the gathering discrete and exclusively private, and the ambience is very relaxing and comfortable although very sexy and arousing. In order to attend the event you will have to go through interviews to make sure you fit to their existing society perfectly. I met some great couples in the event, very smart and well-accomplished, and we had a lovely evening.

Big events may be interesting, but you should also try private parties to get slightly different adventures and experiences with your spouse. Some private parties do requires thorough checks and interviews before you are given access to enter — that is why they call it “private” in the first place — but they will be well worth it.